The Ideal Woman – Part 2

Yesterday we saw certain qualities about the virtuous wife described in Proverbs chapter 31. Today let’s go ahead and see the rest.

Generous and Self Sufficient

She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple. Proverbs 31: 20-22

One of the reasons why she was successful in all her businesses was because of her generous nature. The more you give, the more you receive, “good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom.” (Luke 6:38)

Recognized and Praise-worthy

Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.” Proverbs 31: 23, 28-29

The toughest part to deal with in being a wife or a mother is getting noticed. The children and the husband here, rise up and praise her, for all her contributions. This goes out to all kids and husbands, “recognize” your mother and wife for all that they silently do in the backdrop to get your family running. A small “thank you” or “I love you” goes a long way!

Wives, even if you are not recognized, remember who you are doing these for ultimately. “whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31)


Wise and Fears God

Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,

But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31: 25-26, 30

Now we know the reason why she is able to be this ideal woman. She fears God. She seeks wisdom and keeps it. She gives God the priority in her life. Only such a woman can be praised. This passage is a wonderful climax to a book of wisdom. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” (Proverbs 9:10)

The virtuous woman embraced the truth of God’s word and lived up to it. To live the life she lived, she needed to be fueled. She fueled with the word of God. Because only when we fuel up, we can out pour and bless others.

Now the proverbs 31 woman doesn’t seem to be a distant, ideal and fictional character that she is, does it? With the fear of God in our hearts and the word of God in our mind and mouths, we also can be the virtuous woman!

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The Ideal Woman – Part 1

If there is one woman in the Bible that we all strive hard to be like, it’s the ideal virtuous wife portrayed in Proverbs chapter 31. This is a big one, so we will study it in parts. Tomorrow is my birthday so I saved my favorite for just around birthday time for some soul searching of my own🙂



The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life. Proverbs 31:11-12

I believe that trust is one of the key aspects when it comes to a marriage. A husband should be able to trust the wife with his most important and sensitive matters and the wife should be able to do the same. When the trust breaks, its too ugly. The damage causes heartbreak. Any amount of mending won’t work till God’s love is filled and overflows in both hearts.

The heart of the husband here safely trust her. That is a great privilege I would say. This virtuous wife had earned it! By not breaching the trust, you are doing good to your husband and not evil. By the way, it’s not for a few days, or weeks, or years, but all the days of your life.

Early riser and Productive

She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants. Proverbs 31:13-15

Early rising and productivity go hand in hand. I used to think of myself as a night person, but I’ve become a morning person now. Not that being a night person is wrong, but there is something special and enriching in rising early (or as our ideal wife here would, “while it is yet night”) that sets the day up for accomplishment. In the morning, the mind is void of any distraction, give the first few minutes for Him and get started on your day.

Our virtuous wife here, is good with the works of her hand. She cooks, not just for her family, but also for her maids. There is no arrogant or oppressive nature in her. Later on we will see that she has her own business and provides for the family, yet she stays humble and submissive. That is a beautiful character that should be adorned by a wife. When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.” (Proverbs 11:2)


She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle. Proverbs 31:16-19

Just like me, many of you might find it hard to resonate with the virtuous woman when it comes to entrepreneurship. Not everyone is born to plant a vineyard and sell merchandise. The list here is not just about her success in business, it talks about the industrious person she was. With all the running about and doing stuff, she wasn’t idle. She put herself out there and was devoted and hard working in any and every task that was put in front of her. Most tasks around the house seem to be endless and mundane.

We wash and clean and pickup just to wake up tomorrow and do it all over again. It is easy to be caught in a web of idleness and boredom. But our virtuous woman challenges us to be industrious with the use of our time, resources and strength!

Today, let’s pray and ask God for courage and strength to be the ideal woman He wants us to be. Trustworthy, productive and devoted wives. Tomorrow, we’ll see more of what this woman has to offer and where does all her virtues come from.

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A wise woman from Tekoa

Today for the study of our anonymous woman, let’s turn to 2 Samuel chapter 14. David was the king at that time. One of his sons Amnon was in love with his step sister, Tamar who was Absalom’s sister. Amonon forced himself into sleeping with Tamar and now both David and Absalom were very angry. However, Absalom planned and killed Amnon. Now David was upset because he had lost his son to one of his own. He mourned for Amnon for a while and he was comforted, after that his heart longed for Absalom.

Joab, realized that David was concerned about Absalom but he needed a little nudge. So he hired a wise woman from Tekoa to play the part of a mourning mother and gave her a script to act.

And she answered, “Indeed I am a widow, my husband is dead. Now your maidservant had two sons; and the two fought with each other in the field, and there was no one to part them, but the one struck the other and killed him. And now the whole family has risen up against your maidservant, and they said, ‘Deliver him who struck his brother, that we may execute him for the life of his brother whom he killed; and we will destroy the heir also.’ So they would extinguish my ember that is left, and leave to my husband neither name nor remnant on the earth.” 2 Samuel 14:5-7

David assured her that nothing will happen to her son. He asked her to go in peace and that everything will be taken care of. But she didn’t leave. Not until she said a few words that made David think about his own son and his own guilt of not forgiving him.

13 So the woman said: “Why then have you schemed such a thing against the people of God? For the king speaks this thing as one who is guilty, in that the king does not bring his banished one home again.14 For we will surely die and become like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be gathered up again. Yet God does not take away a life; but He devises means, so that His banished ones are not expelled from Him. 2 Samuel 14:13-14

First of, she was bold enough to confront the king for his fault. Although she was set up by Joab, it took courage to appear before the king and convict him of his guilt. Second, she knew her scriptures and the Lord in a very personal and in depth manner. She hinted on the frailty of life and why remembering and acting upon past sins was a fruitless endeavor. She knew that God hates sins, but doesn’t hate the sinner and that He provides a way for restoration and salvation.

FormatFactoryAs far as the east is from the west,So far has He removed our transgressions from us..jpgWhen king David heard these words, he was immediately convicted of his own guilt of not forgiving Absalom for killing his son. He ordered that Absalom be brought back from Geshur and by the end of the chapter David forgave Absalom and their relationship was restored.

It is interesting to see that among the pages of the book on war, murder, vengeance, adultery and treason there is this beautiful chapter that pauses for a moment and talks about forgiveness. Who is God calling you to forgive today? God does not keep account of our faults. He has scattered them as far as east is from the west. (Psalm 103:12) He expects us to do the same. When God has forgiven us so much, how can we not forgive even so little?

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The Samaritan Woman

When the thought about writing on the unnamed women in the Bible came to my mind, the first woman I thought about was the Samaritan woman. It was either by Jesus’ impartial way in reaching out to this Samaritan Woman or by the woman’s curious questions that led to her finding the Messiah, this incident has been imprinted on our hearts very well, despite the anonymity of this Samaritan woman.

She comes out to draw water at the sixth hour, which is a very odd timing for a water run in that land. This was a woman, clearly betrayed and ashamed of her life. She had lost her dignity and purpose to live. Then she meets Jesus, who asks her for water and now she has so many questions for Him.

How is it that You, being a Jew, ask a drink from me, a Samaritan woman? (John 4:9)

Sir, You have nothing to draw with, and the well is deep. Where then do You get that living water? (John 4:11)

Are You greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well, and drank from it himself, as well as his sons and his livestock? (John 4:12)

The woman asked crisp and clear meaningful questions to which Jesus responded with spiritual answers slowly opening up her mind to see that He was the Messiah. When Jesus brought up the whole husband issue, she wasn’t ashamed or cut her conversation short and leave, she said, “Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet.” (John 4:19) That says something about this woman who wouldn’t go out to get water when the other women were present. She was a seeker. She knew her sins and felt guilty about it. But she waited for the Messiah to come and make things right.

romans1-16_finalOnce she found out about Christ, all her shame and guilt flew out the window. She was not afraid anymore to talk to the villagers. She told them about Jesus and all that He spoke to her. They also came and saw for themselves and realized that He was indeed the Savior of the world.

Then they said to the woman, “Now we believe, not because of what you said, for we ourselves have heard Him and we know that this is indeed the Christ, the Savior of the world.” John 4: 42

What a wonderful transformation! Isn’t salvation a wonderful thing. When we seek Him, we will find Him, He will reveal Himself to us. And once we find Him, we can’t shut up. We shouldn’t shut up.

For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes. Romans 1:16

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Jairus’ daughter restored to Life

Jairus was a ruler of the synagogue whose daughter was in the death bed. He came to Jesus for her healing. Jesus went with him to his house. While they were on their way, they heard from someone that the girl was dead. But Jesus said to the ruler, “Do not be afraid; only believe.” When Jesus arrived at his house, He saw the people weeping and said, “Why make this commotion and weep? The child is not dead, but sleeping.” Then he went in with her mother and father, Peter, James and John and took the child by the hand and said to her “Talitha, cumi,” which is translated, “Little girl, I say to you, arise.” Immediately the girl arose and walked.

He said to her “Talitha, cumi,” which is translated, “Little girl, I say to you, arise.” Immediately the girl arose and walked..png

Jesus had performed a lot of miracles by then, however He had not raised anyone from dead. You know everything occurs in God’s timetable and Jesus was working on that timetable. He knew that it was time for God’s glory to be manifested. So He was prepared for this time. He took Peter, James and John with Him while performing this miracle because this was an important moment in His ministry where God’s resurrection power was going to be revealed. Notice that these three disciples were what is called the “inner circle” and Jesus took them with Him in couple of other important incidents in His earthly ministry, the transfiguration and the prayer in Garden of Gethsemane.

Unlike other miracles where Jesus acknowledges and appreciates the faith in the person receiving the healing, here Jesus asks Jairus to not be afraid and just believe. Not that Jairus didn’t have faith, or else he wouldn’t have come to Jesus, but that it was in God’s time for this raising from death to take place and for God’s glory to be revealed through His son. So people might understand that He was the Son of God.

This unnamed twelve year old girl was an instrument by whom God’s glory was manifested. Sometimes all we have to do is, sit back and let God work in us and through us for His glory. Be it hear break, failure, disappointment or even death, He will use it for His glory.

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What does being prepared really mean?

“Then the kingdom of heaven shall be likened to ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. Now five of them were wise, and five were foolish. Those who were foolish took their lamps and took no oil with them, but the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps. But while the bridegroom was delayed, they all slumbered and slept. “And at midnight a cry was heard: ‘Behold, the bridegroom is coming; go out to meet him!’ Then all those virgins arose and trimmed their lamps. And the foolish said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.’ But the wise answered, saying, ‘No, lest there should not be enough for us and you; but go rather to those who sell, and buy for yourselves.’ 10 And while they went to buy, the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went in with him to the wedding; and the door was shut. 11 “Afterward the other virgins came also, saying, ‘Lord, Lord, open to us!’ 12 But he answered and said, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, I do not know you.’ 13 “Watch therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour in which the Son of Man is coming. Matthew 25:1-13

The parable of the wise and foolish virgins appears in Matthew 25. A very familiar passage, we’ve read it multiple times, enacted it. We know the central theme of this parable, “Be prepared –  Watch therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour in which the Son of Man is coming”. Although, what does being prepared really mean and how does it work out practically?

To understand that we need to see the context and the position of this particular parable. It is sandwiched between the parable of the faithful and evil servant and the parable of the talents. Both parables talk about being faithful to the end. No one knows the hour in which the Son of Man will return. It will be unexpected. So we have to be prepared always, so that we are found faithful when He returns.

Watch therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour in which the Son of Man is coming. Matthew 25-1-13 (2).pngThat’s what the wise women in this parable did. They were prepared. Their purpose was to wait for the groom and they remained faithful to that end. That is what Christian life is all about. Living every single moment for the one who loved us and gave Himself for us. Yes, it’s hard, but it’s not impossible. We have to model Christ’s faithfulness. He is faithful to keep us from temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13) and forgive our sins when we confess them (1 John 1:9) When temptations come, remember His promise “Do not fear any of those things which you are about to suffer. Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life.” (Revelations 2:10)

The foolish women on the other hand were not prepared and so were denied entry to the party. Don’t wait till the end, or a convenient time or for this phase in your life to pass. The time to be faithful is here and now. Because we don’t know when our Lord will return and we wouldn’t want Him to find us foolish!

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Who was Pharaoh’s Daughter?

Do you know who I’m talking about when I say Pharaoh’s daughter? She was as the title suggests, daughter of Pharaoh, the then king of Egypt when Israelites where in bondage under the Egyptians. Let me give you a little history here.

Joseph’s family of 70 people came in to Egypt to escape the famine in their land. The Pharaoh who was king at that time facilitated their move-in and provided land and jobs for them, because Joseph had saved the country from a deadly famine with the wisdom and guidance from God. They lived in the land of Goshen. Eventually, over the years, the family became a nation of their own and there arose a new king over Egypt, Pharaoh, who did not know Joseph (Exodus 2:8) He feared that the Israelites might overpower his people and join his enemies in war and defeat them. So he ordered that all male children born to Israelite parents be killed. At this point in the story, when Israelites were under bondage and suffering greatly at the hands of the Egyptians was born Moses.

And a man of the house of Levi went and took as wife a daughter of Levi. So the woman conceived and bore a son. And when she saw that he was a beautiful child, she hid him three months. But when she could no longer hide him, she took an ark of bulrushes for him, daubed it with asphalt and pitch, put the child in it, and laid it in the reeds by the river’s bank. And his sister stood afar off, to know what would be done to him. Exodus 2: 1-4

I am amazed at the faith of this mother. What did she expect to happen? Also, notice the love of the sister, as she lingers and watches over her baby brother to see what would happen. And then an amazing thing happens. Then the daughter of Pharaoh came down to bathe at the river. And her maidens walked along the riverside; and when she saw the ark among the reeds, she sent her maid to get it. And when she opened it, she saw the child, and behold, the baby wept. So she had compassion on him, and said, “This is one of the Hebrews’ children.” (Exodus 2:5-6)


And the child grew, and she brought him to Pharaoh’s daughter, and he became her son. So she called his name Moses, saying, “Because I drew him out of the water.” Exodus 2-10 (1).png

The royal princess, stooped down from her position and had compassion for a Hebrew child, who was, by the books, a threat to her own country. She shatters every image of a predictable behavior of a royal woman. She was kind, compassionate and smart. She paid a woman, (who was the child’s mother) to raise the child for her. She risked being questioned or punished by the king for raising a Hebrew child.

And the child grew, and she brought him to Pharaoh’s daughter, and he became her son. So she called his name Moses, saying, “Because I drew him out of the water.” Exodus 2:10

Knowingly or unknowingly, she reached out to this little baby, who will one day become the redeemer for the nation of Israel. Being raised as the princess’s son, gave Moses exclusive access to royal upbringing and education. “And Moses was learned in all the wisdom of the Egyptians, and was mighty in words and deeds.” (Acts 7:22) For 40 years he was trained at the highest order for a greater mission that was beyond what the princess could imagine.

All because of her compassionate heart. In that time, when politics was inhuman, she stood out. She went against her odds to rescue a child.

Who is God putting across your path today? How will you stand out and extend yourself for another person? How will you make a difference where you are placed?

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